Have you ever been in the middle of a big group of people and felt all alone? Probably all of us have. Loneliness is not necessarily a matter of having someone around us – even happily married people sometimes drift apart emotionally and wind up sharing a bed together, yet feel desperately alone.
“College is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex and fun and pleasure. In those years I’ve had to rot in loneliness, it’s not fair.” (Day of Retribution, Elliot Rodger, Video)
The nation may have been shocked by the killings, but the thoughts Elliot Rodger expressed in video are mainstream. The views he held are held and even taught by many – that college is the time when we start using others to experience pleasure for ourselves. Sex is nothing more than a basic physiological need and it is no big deal to hook up with someone sexually to get that need met. Continue reading Sex and fun and pleasure?→
Many of you have already read the post on social media regarding the 25 year old “Ms. Pretty” who was seeking a rich husband, and the response by the CEO of J.P. Morgan.
Although a lot of people apparently enjoyed the banker putting the young lady “in her place,” but I was saddened by the whole affair. I would like to offer a more compassionate response.
Ms. Pretty is a Product of Our Society
Think about it. We live in a society where appearance is supreme. Our media continually parades women in front of our eyes wearing very little clothing and most of those on parade are stunningly pretty. A young person, such as Ms. Pretty, was raised in this meat market type of environment – and while her request for a husband who makes at least $500,000 a year in exchange for her good looks and the use of her body might seem a bit cold and calculating – in truth it is not. Continue reading To the Pretty Girl Seeking Rich Husband – A Compassionate Response→
Chances are you know of someone who met a really unbelievable person while dating – and fell heads-over-heels in “love” very quickly. The relationship was red-hot from the get-go. But soon it turned alarmingly scary.
Chances are, the unbelievable special someone was a sociopath.
What is a Sociopath?
In brief, a sociopath feels no true empathy – empathy being the capacity for caring for the feelings and well-being of others. They tend to be master manipulators to get what they want from those around them – because for the sociopath, life is about them only. Continue reading Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2→
The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating→
Is there something wrong with showing the magnificent female form? Is it wrong for men to want to see it? Is it wrong for a woman to dance suggestively, or even make some fairly suggestive moves or touches?
It all depends on the context. If the context is inline with the purpose of a woman’s sexuality, then it not only is not wrong, it is wonderful!
Ben Jeremiah is back with the next in the series on our Porn and Purity Recovery series – Am I Addicted to Porn? This is a difficult but vital question to ask – I am routinely hearing of some great marriages and other serious relationships being derailed by pornography addiction.
If you use porn at all – you would do yourself and all those who care about you a favor by going through our ongoing series on Porn and Purity Recovery.
The New Prostitution
I was discussing social matters with a friend recently and he was telling me about the remarkable decline in prostitution in America. He took this as an encouraging sign. In my position with my church, working with dating and married couples – I see a different side of the equation. Continue reading New Lesson in Our Porn and Purity Recovery Series!→