Free Porn Or Porn Free? Choose Carefully…

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Free porn – a lot of folks are searching for it – but should you instead be striving to be porn free?

There is a lot of free porn available on the internet.  It has definitely grown more easily available with time. Researchers have found that 30 percent of all web traffic is pornography related. The most popular porn website averages over 4.4 billion page views a month!

A lot of folks go searching for the keyword “free porn,” but should they instead be seeking to be “porn free?”

In my last post, “The Relational Impact of Porn,” I discussed the serious impact that pornography has on our very being – especially on relationships. This is not something you need in your life. You were designed and intended for a better life than one of a sad addiction. You were meant to have  rich and full relationships with others real people – not just images. Pornography is inherently relationally defective, and if you are using it at any level you should work your way out of this habit starting now. You need to strive to be porn free for the best relational health possible.

Free Porn is Ultimately Expensive

The internal forces involved in pornography are very powerful. The chemicals and neural pathways involved in porn usage are designed to help keep two married people together for a lifetime (when combined with the right plan for marriage). They are also the ones grossly manipulated by illicit drugs such as crystal meth and crack cocaine. The impact is so powerful that William Struthers notes in his book Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain that: “Pornography and our response to it alter our brain in a way that is difficult to undo. Pornography is the consumption of sexual poison that becomes part of the fabric of the mind.” (Wired is available in the LU Bookstore)

So yes, you can become strongly addicted to pornography. If your usage is to the point that you seem completely compelled to use it, seek professional help. I know it is a sensitive subject, but this addiction is so commonplace now you will not be able to find any counselor who would be surprised that you are struggling with this.

Over the last decade I have seen a number of men be arrested for pornography related crimes and spend time in jail for it. Mass murderers Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer both claimed that pornography played a role in their descent into murder. All of this has heightened the awareness in me that if you are deeply into the use of porn you need to take drastic and immediate measures to escape.

If you are just dabbling in porn…

If you are just dabbling in porn, maybe just using it occasionally, then make every effort to get out now. Use internet filters, an accountability partner, and consider the lifelong value of an old-fashioned concept: Purity.

You see, we are not just highly evolved animals who are meeting primal needs. We are created in the image of a holy God; our sexual needs serve a beautiful and life-enhancing purpose when acted upon in the way they were designed: in a secure monogamous relationship (marriage). We have the capability when God lives in us and gives us strength to become pure in the expression of our sexual nature. Purity is more that just a trait that enables us to avoid harmful behavior. It also enables us to get the fullest joy from the good things in life.

An old teacher named Paul (a.k.a. the Apostle Paul) sets us on the path to purity in this way: “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is commendable, if there is excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Philipians 4:8, The Bible) Purity is not just a matter of avoiding bad things, it is a matter of focusing our minds on that which is excellent. Spiritually speaking, if we only try to avoid evil we leave a void in our lives which will create such a thirst for a calming satisfaction that we may only find ourselves more into evil than ever. Have you ever noticed how when you decide you are going to quit something, it’s appeal to you only increases?

So not only must we strive to avoid sexual imagery if we are striving for purity, but we must also intentionally cultivate a taste for those things which are noble and beautiful. We can do this by intentionally filtering everything that enters our hearts and minds, and only allow those things of the nature Paul described above. Of course, the most powerful means of change for the human heart is God and his word –  the Bible. The wisdom contained within this book when acted upon with the strength which God willingly supplies can turn you into a new person.

Indeed, Paul himself instructed his fellow believers in this way: “Do not be conformed to this work, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” (Romans 12:2, The Bible) If you are struggling in your thought life, what more could you need than a completely transformed mind? As the writer indicates it is through filling the mind with the truth from the loving God who created you that personal purity is birthed.

There are some good resources available if you would honestly just consider yourself a “porn user.” But if there is any possibility that you are addicted, please seek professional help. I know many churches (such as the one I belong to) offer counseling at no cost to its members. The Love University Bookstore has several helpful books under the “Pornography Recovery” section. Click here for a great website with some outstanding porn addiction recovery resources.

I have seen way too many lives and relationships destroyed by this sexual poison; get out and stay out of this destructive lifestyle now.

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