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A couple of posts ago we discussed a beautiful actress and her wisdom on cheating. Her advice was flawed, but the media loved it. Now another lady has weighed in on the topic of gender – only this time it is generating a lot of negative press.
Kirsten Dunst, who my family thoroughly enjoyed in the earlier Spiderman movies as the glamorous “MJ,” the love interest of Peter Parker, has sparked an online furor over something some apparently see as controversial. In the United Kingdom edition of Harper’s Bazaar, Ms. Dunst said:
“I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued…We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armour. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work.”
Several years ago reporter John Stossel interviewed a lot of people, especially women, on this issue. One of the telling questions was this; if you (as a woman) are trapped in a burning building, do you want a male or female firefighter to rescue you?
The unanimous answer was “male.” When asked why, the women answered that they wanted someone strong enough to carry them out of the building, not to drag them by their feet down the stairs.
The same women preferred a woman to be their nurse, because they perceived women as being more caring and nurturing.
It seems that in spite of the femino-fascist propaganda, that most seasoned (read that as mature and observant) people understand that men and women were created with unique strengths, weaknesses, abilities, and gifts. These same people also realize that men and women are not in competition with each other in life – we actually are interdependent. We need each other, in society, to act within the gifts that we have each been given. Which is exactly what Kirsten Dunst is saying – and it is true.
Ms. Dunst values who she was created to be – and finds great meaning and significance in being truly feminine. She is a skilled, beautiful, and immensely successful actress. But there’s more to her than that. Even if she had never been selected for a single role in Hollywood, she would have been a success. That’s because she is someone special; she is a glorious and valuable lady. We should value that as well.
Not According to the Femino-Fascist Though…
But for the aforementioned intolerant femino-fascist – well, their response is very telling:
“I’m not going to couch this much because Kirsten Dunst is not paid to write gender theory so it shouldn’t surprise anyone that she’s kind of dumb about it, just as I wouldn’t be surprised if Gloria Steinem sucked at convincingly and heartbreakingly playing a mysterious oversexed teen who kills herself in a Sofia Coppola movie.” (Quoted from the website Jezebel, writer – Erin Gloria Ryan)
For those of you who study critical thinking you see the problem in this response. It does not deal at all with the proposition Ms. Dunst brings up. It instead is a fallacy called the Ad Hominem attack; which means “attack the man” (or woman, in this case).
Ms. Ryan, instead of dealing with the claims Ms. Dunst made of the importance of men being men and women being women in order for society to thrive, simply attacks Kirsten as being dim-witted or stupid, since she isn’t “paid to write gender theory.” Let me summarize the objection. If you don’t write gender theory, and get paid to do it, then you cannot express a credible opinion on this issue. In other words, Ms. Ryan has nothing to say on the issue, she is just intolerant when another woman doesn’t toe the party line.
In case you’re wondering, gender theory is hard to pin down. But it is the general idea (disproved through decades of research), that gender is a “social construct” that is placed upon us – rather than inborn.
In other words, the noble things Ms. Dunst sees in being a nurturing mother are just oppressive social constraints placed upon women to keep them enslaved.
A lot of research has been done on the issue, but too often it appears that the little girls will swaddle the firetruck and hug it, while the little boys will pull a leg off of the doll and use it as a gun. So far, gender theory is just a figment of the angry feminist imagination.
I’ve been blessed to know some great women in my life. My wife, my mom, and lots of lady pilots in the military and airline industry. The interesting thing is, the happiest of them are fully comfortable with doing exactly what Kirstin said – being the primary nurturer, providing a loving home, and being a real woman. They are great nurses, pilots, accountants, teachers, wives, and mothers. They can do what they want, and they choose to be wonderful at what they choose. All of them choose being a wife and mother – the family aspect – as their most valued role. They are a blessing to everyone in their lives.
And I and millions of others have been blessed by having such caring, loving, courageous, and truly feminine moms, wives, friends, sisters, and fellow soldiers in our lives.
The Sad Thing Is…
In the femino-fascist world, where the women claim to be looking out for the good of women, it is apparently okay to slander and attack another woman simply because you disagree with what she wants out of life. Ms. Ryan’s attack on Kirsten Dunst, as we noted, had nothing to do with the issues she raised, it just was a personal and unsubstantiated attack on her intelligence. How low down and shameful is that?
I hope that most of us will condemn this attack on all loving and feminine women. My life was made great by the caring women in my life. Let’s appreciate them for who they are, not what some angry and intolerant people want them to be.