Have you ever been in the middle of a big group of people and felt all alone? Probably all of us have. Loneliness is not necessarily a matter of having someone around us – even happily married people sometimes drift apart emotionally and wind up sharing a bed together, yet feel desperately alone.
Kirsten Dunst, who my family thoroughly enjoyed in the earlier Spiderman movies as the glamorous “MJ,” the love interest of Peter Parker, has sparked an online furor over something some apparently see as controversial. In the United Kingdom edition of Harper’s Bazaar, Ms. Dunst said: Continue reading Is Kirsten Dunst Right? A Woman Should be a Woman?→
Chances are you know of someone who met a really unbelievable person while dating – and fell heads-over-heels in “love” very quickly. The relationship was red-hot from the get-go. But soon it turned alarmingly scary.
Chances are, the unbelievable special someone was a sociopath.
What is a Sociopath?
In brief, a sociopath feels no true empathy – empathy being the capacity for caring for the feelings and well-being of others. They tend to be master manipulators to get what they want from those around them – because for the sociopath, life is about them only. Continue reading Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2→
The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating→
It’s pretty common – you see a guy and a gal together quite a bit and in a moment with the guy you ask the obvious question, “So, is that your girlfriend?” To which he replies, “Um, no, we’re just talking.”
Strangely, if you ask the girl the same question, she’ll likely reply “Well, I don’t know what’s going on.” If you press her, she may even tell you how he calls her a lot, spends a lot of time talking, and even invites her to do things with him (that seem to her like dates), but she just doesn’t know where she stands. You may even see a few tears as she talks about him. Continue reading We’re Just Talking – Is That Okay?→
In Part 1 of this discussion we saw that the idea of finding the one certainly works well for Hollywood movies and romance novels – but it is based on a fantasy view of life. It also tends to be based on a selfish motive – obviously a poor way to get into a long-term love relationship. Couples who buy into this idea and get together based upon the emotions and strong feelings of the moment tend to end up disillusioned – those romantically glorious breathless moments are just that; moments. They will not last. Those indescribable internal stirrings are insufficient to sustain a long-term love relationship. Continue reading Is He or She the One? Part 2→
Pete and Annie were best friends all through school. Annie thought Pete was the greatest thing. Pete thought Annie was great too, but he didn’t think she was the image of who he was supposed to be with. So they always stayed just friends, helping each other through middle school and high school, problems with friends, classmates, and love interests. Pete grew a little jealous as he started to see others find her positive qualities, and flirted and paid more attention to her. Annie flirted and led other guys on, loving the way she could tell Pete was interested, but Pete still wavered, bouncing from girl to girl, always coming back to Annie in between new flings with random girls. Annie was on a roller coaster, excited in possibilities but hurt in the shadow of a new girl. Pete, wounded by a new rejection or liberated from the chains from the latest ended relationship, went to Annie seeking support or in excitement. After years, finally Annie, exhausted by the constant ups and downs, had his full attention, with no other girls on the radar. They grew closer and were about to start dating, when, unfortunately, a new girl came on the scene. Pete dropped Annie faster than he ever had before, and Annie finally saw Pete for who he truly was. He was a guy seeking validation from others, not a true and deep relationship. He based his self worth on the girl he had on his arm, not the care and support that relationships can offer. This hardened Annie’s heart. She gave up on Pete and looked down on him for his continuous choices, thinking she was better than he. She closed up, refusing to have any feelings positive feelings towards him at all, even as a friend. She gave up on Pete, thinking there was no good in him, only selfishness. Continue reading “We Accept the Love We Think We Deserve.”→
Have you been to the doctor for a procedure? Do you appreciate the way they will describe what you are about to go through? They might say something along the lines of, “You are going to feel some pretty uncomfortable pressure, and then a pin prick – then the pressure should become more bearable.”
I’ve always appreciated that – it gives me a target to shoot for in my endurance of the pain. Awareness of what is happening can really help. So here are some awareness issues that should help you deal with the feeling of love. Continue reading Handling the Feeling of Love, Part 2→