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Should I See Shades of Grey?

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The book series 50 Shades of Grey was hugely successful – if you go by the number of books sold. But how do you measure success when it comes to the relational impact of the books? 

Do these stories of sado-masochistic extra-marital sex help those who read them in forming and sustaining healthy long-term relationships – or hurt them?

And now comes the movie version. Should you buy a ticket and fill your mind with the message of Grey? Continue reading Should I See Shades of Grey?

My Boyfriend Sold Me…Deadly Dating Part I

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There is an old-fashioned way of avoiding abuse in dating relationships – ready to go “Old School?”

“…I met this guy who I thought was my boyfriend…I was convinced he was my boyfriend,” relates Chong Kim. “…We were living in Dallas, Texas, and he told me about after two or three weeks of us dating, and he said to me, ‘I want to take you out of state to go meet my parents.’ And my girlfriend said that if a guy says that to you that he likes you, so there was no ‘be careful’ – none of that. I was real excited.”

Chong’s story is the focus of the award winning movie Eden – and as you might suspect from the way she is telling the story, things are about to get ugly – real ugly. Continue reading My Boyfriend Sold Me…Deadly Dating Part I

Miley Twerked – Proper Sexuality, Pt 3

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Is it normal to show your body and express your sexuality in public? Or is there a higher purpose?

Is there something wrong with showing the magnificent female form? Is it wrong for men to want to see it? Is it wrong for a woman to dance suggestively, or even make some fairly suggestive moves or touches?

It all depends on the context. If the context is inline with the purpose of a woman’s sexuality, then it not only is not wrong, it is wonderful!

You Should Have Put a Ring On It?

Beyonce’s song about single ladies is only partly right – but the proper context for the display of the beautiful female form and the expression of all sexuality is after the ring is given, and the couple says “I do.”   Continue reading Miley Twerked – Proper Sexuality, Pt 3

New Lesson in Our Porn and Purity Recovery Series!

Does Porn Hurt Anyone?
Does Porn Hurt? It may seem like a harmless distraction – but porn can consume your life – and harm others.

Ben Jeremiah is back with the next in the series on our Porn and Purity Recovery series – Am I Addicted to Porn? This is a difficult but vital question to ask – I am routinely hearing of some great marriages and other serious relationships being derailed by pornography addiction.

If you use porn at all – you would do yourself and all those who care about you a favor by going through our ongoing series on Porn and Purity Recovery.

The New Prostitution

I was discussing social matters with a friend recently and he was telling me about the remarkable decline in prostitution in America. He took this as an encouraging sign. In my position with my church, working with dating and married couples – I see a different side of the equation. Continue reading New Lesson in Our Porn and Purity Recovery Series!

How To Use a Condom For Truly Safe Sex

Using a condom for truly safe sex.
Make sure you know how to use a condom in the absolute most safe and effective way!

You need to know how to use a condom properly in order to have safe sex. But could you bear with me while I tell you that what you think you know about how to use a condom is wrong?

There’s an old children’s story about a king who got scammed. He was sold some clothes that were so fine that he couldn’t see them. His loyal subjects were afraid to tell their beloved king that he was naked! It took a simple and honest young man to finally scream out the truth; “Dude, you’re nude!” (I am paraphrasing the story!)

When it comes to the current rage of sex education and the promotion of condoms we could use the blunt honesty of this young man. Teen dating and sexual advice websites as well as school sex-ed programs are teaching young folks how to properly use a condom and even giving them out for free – all in the name of preventing sexually transmitted infections.

Do you think that a condom makes sex safe? I must say with love and concern in my heart; “Dude, you’re nude!”

Condom Effectiveness Should be a National Scandal

The truth of condom effectiveness should be a national scandal. There should be outrage in the media and massive lawsuits against the websites and organizations promoting this so called safe sex indoctrination. While there is a proper way to use a condom, let us look at why you shouldn’t even consider a condom as a safety item. Continue reading How To Use a Condom For Truly Safe Sex

Free Porn Or Porn Free? Choose Carefully…

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Free porn – a lot of folks are searching for it – but should you instead be striving to be porn free?

There is a lot of free porn available on the internet.  It has definitely grown more easily available with time. Researchers have found that 30 percent of all web traffic is pornography related. The most popular porn website averages over 4.4 billion page views a month!

A lot of folks go searching for the keyword “free porn,” but should they instead be seeking to be “porn free?”

In my last post, “The Relational Impact of Porn,” I discussed the serious impact that pornography has on our very being – especially on relationships. This is not something you need in your life. You were designed and intended for a better life than one of a sad addiction. You were meant to have  rich and full relationships with others real people – not just images. Pornography is inherently relationally defective, and if you are using it at any level you should work your way out of this habit starting now. You need to strive to be porn free for the best relational health possible.

Free Porn is Ultimately Expensive

The internal forces involved in pornography are very powerful. The chemicals and neural pathways involved in porn usage are designed to help keep two married people together for a lifetime (when combined with the right plan for marriage). They are also the ones grossly manipulated by illicit drugs such as crystal meth and crack cocaine. The impact is so powerful that William Struthers notes in his book Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain that: “Pornography and our response to it alter our brain in a way that is difficult to undo. Pornography is the consumption of sexual poison that becomes part of the fabric of the mind.” (Wired is available in the LU Bookstore) Continue reading Free Porn Or Porn Free? Choose Carefully…

The Relational Impact of Porn

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image16963581Pornography is now commonplace. It has become surprisingly accepted in our society. The question is, is it a harmless distraction as its proponents claim, or is there a reason to be concerned about the impact of pornography?

Recently a 13 year old girl fell to her death in London. Her young boyfriend, having seen some pretty wild sex on the internet, pressured her to perform what he had seen and secretly filmed her. When she found out about the video, she begged him to delete the video, threatening to jump out of a window if he did not. She slipped as she demonstratively leaned out the window and did fall to her death. 13 years old and pressured to perform something from internet pornography?  ( See full story here )

The relational impact of porn is not restricted to the dating years. In working with married couples in trouble I have heard of more than one instance in which the husband was so overstimulated by the wild images of sex on the internet that he could no longer get excited enough around a real person to actually have sex with his wife!

Obviously, pornography has a seriously bad impact on relationships. Continue reading The Relational Impact of Porn