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Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2

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Chances are you know of someone who met a really unbelievable person while dating – and fell heads-over-heels in “love” very quickly. The relationship was red-hot from the get-go. But soon it turned alarmingly scary.

Chances are, the unbelievable special someone was a sociopath. 

What is a Sociopath?

In brief, a sociopath feels no true empathy – empathy being the capacity for caring for the feelings and well-being of others. They tend to be master manipulators to get what they want from those around them – because for the sociopath, life is about them only. Continue reading Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2

Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating

The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating

Resolve to Get Lucky in Love

I know what a lot of people mean when they say “get lucky.” It can have a certain sexual connotation. But I wanted to get your attention before you made your New Years resolutions. Great relationships have nothing to do with luck. For that matter, having consistently great sex has nothing to do with this mystical force called luck either. So if you want a great relationship or great sex – don’t rely on luck. Resolve to live wisely – none of these good things happen by chance.

Obviously, forcing a relationship on someone isn’t good. I believe that is called kidnapping and is against the law!

But if you want to position yourself for a great relationship, it can be done by resolving to do a few things in particular. Continue reading Resolve to Get Lucky in Love

The Best Dating Advice – Great Dates

Do you want to avoid the pitfalls of dating? The key to great relationships is not a matter of luck. Do this course – by podcast or reading and learn:

  • What is the surprising meaning of love? And can you do love?

  • How do you know who the right person is?

  • What is the surprisingly simple way to safely use a condom?

  • Should you think twice before kissing your date? Much less going further?

  • What are the amazing benefits of sex in a relationship? But what precautions must you take before taking the plunge?

  • What is the key language you need to learn to effectively love someone? It may surprise you!

Get this and more – just click on the links below to learn how to get started on a lifelong relationship now…

 

  1. Setting Dating Goals
  2. What is Love?
  3. How to Love Someone
  4. What Happens During Sex
  5. Safe Sex
  6. Meet the Right Person (Pt. 1)
  7. Meet the Right Person (Pt. 2)
  8. The Guy’s Role in Dating
  9. The Girl’s Role in Dating
  10. How to Date Smartly 

 

Handling the Feeling of Love, Part 2

The Feeling of Love - What do They Mean?
The feeling of love can make everything seem beautiful – but those feelings will not last forever.

In our discussion of the feeling of love, we first talked about why we have these feelings. Now let’s talk about what to do with these amazingly strong sensations.

 The Feeling of Love – Awareness Issues

Have you been to the doctor for a procedure? Do you appreciate the way they will describe what you are about to go through? They might say something along the lines of, “You are going to feel some pretty uncomfortable pressure, and then a pin prick – then the pressure should become more bearable.”

I’ve always appreciated that – it gives me a target to shoot for in my endurance of the pain. Awareness of what is happening can really help. So here are some awareness issues that should help you deal with the feeling of love. Continue reading Handling the Feeling of Love, Part 2

Handling the Feeling of Love, Part 1

Do feeling of love mean we've found the right person?
Feelings of love can happen quickly – does it mean that we’ve met the right person?

The feeling of love? We’ve all been there at some point in our lives; you meet someone who for some reason just sort of makes your heart and whole life feel like its spinning. You find your thoughts dwelling continually on this person and the desire to be with them is incredibly strong. This feeling of love  is commonly understood to be  falling in love – but is it? Is this feeling meaningful toward who we should be with? Or is it cause for caution?

A Shocking Confession…

In teaching the Smart Dating course to some young friends that I know well, they are taken aback when I tell them that have had this feeling of love as a married man! They know me well, they know the kind of intense and devoted relationship I have with my wife of 27 years. But there have been times when I have met some lady who I found to be very attractive, to the point of feeling that strong whoosh of intense emotion in their presence; I ask my friends, “What is a married man to do with that? What does it mean?” Continue reading Handling the Feeling of Love, Part 1

Relationship Skills – Learn Them

Study to acquire relationship skills
We study a lot of things in school – how about studying relationship skills? The payoff can be huge!

Relationship skills are critically needed – good relationships don’t just happen magically. I’ve known a lot of people who were successful by the world’s standards – good jobs, lots of money, and high social status. It has been amazing how many of these folks are miserable because their primary love relationship was faltering or had failed.

But consider this; my youngest daughter recently received her drivers permit. To do so, she had to study the drivers manual for our state and learn the rules of the road, highway signs, regulations, and emergency procedures. Then she took numerous practice tests online. I took her to the DMV for an eye test and a comprehensive knowledge test.

Now, if she wants to get a license and drive by herself, she must get at least 50 hours of training behind the wheel or complete an approved driver’s education course. Driving a car isn’t that complex – but it has serious consequences when done wrong; thus training is required. Continue reading Relationship Skills – Learn Them

The Ideal Romantic Man In Chick Flicks

The romantic man.
Chick flicks may present an unrealistic image of what a romantic man can be – but we men can learn a lot about what women want in a man from them.

The romantic man – idolized in the film genre known as chick flicks.

I have a confession to make – I am a man and I watch chick flicks. Please don’t tell my manly guy friends.

Here’s the deal. I have a wonderful wife whom I just adore. I also have 3 daughters that I also love and they enjoy watching romantic movies. Over the years I have come to appreciate the film genre known as “chick flicks.”

As a romantically minded man who is involved in helping relationships thrive I watch these movies; but not just for the enjoyment of the film itself. I analyze them. As one definition describes this type of film, they mainly “deal with love and romance and are primarily targeted to a female audience.” That is exactly why I watch them; they have been a huge money maker for movie producers because they appeal strongly to something in the heart of the typical lady. So as I watch these romantic plots unfold, I try to discern exactly what it is about the romantic man in the stories that women find so appealing. As my wife and daughter sit beside me with dreamy tear-filled eyes, I am taking notes.

We guys can certainly learn a lot about how to love ladies through a chick flick. Continue reading The Ideal Romantic Man In Chick Flicks

All You Need Is Love? What Is Love?

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image20330668The Beatles sang “All You Need is Love.” The Captain and Tennille proclaimed “Love Will Keep us Together.” The J. Geils Band declared that “Love Stinks.” (You may have to research these bands of my youth, I suppose they are oldies now!)

It’s an interesting cycle, repeated every day the walls of my younger Facebook friends. One of them will suddenly declare themselves in a relationship. As the excitement grows, the words grow poetically dramatic. “I’m so in love! You are my everything, I can’t wait to see you again! It is agony to be without you.”

At some point, especially for lovers in their teens, the confused and angry posts begin, and the status changes to “single.”

Is love this fleeting? The subject of so many songs, books, and movies – can it just escape us in such a short time?

Of course, if you’ve been hanging with this blog for a while, you already know the problem. The problem, especially in our culture in America, is confusion over the feeling that is called love.

It happens like this. We meet someone at school, a coffee shop,  or at work – and there is this sudden attraction. We find ourselves drawn to them, and as we begin to talk with them, the excitement and enchantment with this person grows. It’s kind of a “whoosh” sensation in your heart, it just seems to happen to you, as if fate had drawn you together. We are definitely interested in them, and they seem to be interested in us. Our thoughts start to dwell on them, we start fantasizing about spending more time with them – could this be the one for me? There just seems to be a natural and exciting chemistry between you; surely this relationship was just meant to be. This has got to be love! Yes, I have fallen in love! Continue reading All You Need Is Love? What Is Love?