The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating
Relationship skills are critically needed – good relationships don’t just happen magically. I’ve known a lot of people who were successful by the world’s standards – good jobs, lots of money, and high social status. It has been amazing how many of these folks are miserable because their primary love relationship was faltering or had failed.
But consider this; my youngest daughter recently received her drivers permit. To do so, she had to study the drivers manual for our state and learn the rules of the road, highway signs, regulations, and emergency procedures. Then she took numerous practice tests online. I took her to the DMV for an eye test and a comprehensive knowledge test.
Now, if she wants to get a license and drive by herself, she must get at least 50 hours of training behind the wheel or complete an approved driver’s education course. Driving a car isn’t that complex – but it has serious consequences when done wrong; thus training is required. Continue reading Relationship Skills – Learn Them
The enchanting actress Diane Kruger of National Treasure fame put it this way:
“Without sounding pessimistic, I learned that I don’t believe in marriage. I believe in a commitment you make in your heart. There’s no paper that will make you stay.” (Glamour Magazine interview)
She expresses an understandable and widely held sentiment. A lot of people look at the failure of marriages around them and decide that maybe it’s time to try some other type of relational arrangement.
The question is; what really works? Can you, as Ms. Kruger implies, just trust your heart to guide you into a great, safe, fulfilling, and long-term relationship?
What this actress and many other folks in our society are recommending is cohabitation. This is also known as living together, shacking up, or other colloquialisms. Regardless of what you call it, we do not have to wonder – the statistics are in. Continue reading Shacking Up, Marriage, or What?