Chances are you know of someone who met a really unbelievable person while dating – and fell heads-over-heels in “love” very quickly. The relationship was red-hot from the get-go. But soon it turned alarmingly scary.
Chances are, the unbelievable special someone was a sociopath.
What is a Sociopath?
In brief, a sociopath feels no true empathy – empathy being the capacity for caring for the feelings and well-being of others. They tend to be master manipulators to get what they want from those around them – because for the sociopath, life is about them only. Continue reading Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2→
The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating→
I know what a lot of people mean when they say “get lucky.” It can have a certain sexual connotation. But I wanted to get your attention before you made your New Years resolutions. Great relationships have nothing to do with luck. For that matter, having consistently great sex has nothing to do with this mystical force called luck either. So if you want a great relationship or great sex – don’t rely on luck. Resolve to live wisely – none of these good things happen by chance.
Obviously, forcing a relationship on someone isn’t good. I believe that is called kidnapping and is against the law!
“…I met this guy who I thought was my boyfriend…I was convinced he was my boyfriend,” relates Chong Kim. “…We were living in Dallas, Texas, and he told me about after two or three weeks of us dating, and he said to me, ‘I want to take you out of state to go meet my parents.’ And my girlfriend said that if a guy says that to you that he likes you, so there was no ‘be careful’ – none of that. I was real excited.”
In Part 1 of this discussion we saw that the idea of finding the one certainly works well for Hollywood movies and romance novels – but it is based on a fantasy view of life. It also tends to be based on a selfish motive – obviously a poor way to get into a long-term love relationship. Couples who buy into this idea and get together based upon the emotions and strong feelings of the moment tend to end up disillusioned – those romantically glorious breathless moments are just that; moments. They will not last. Those indescribable internal stirrings are insufficient to sustain a long-term love relationship. Continue reading Is He or She the One? Part 2→
Is there something wrong with showing the magnificent female form? Is it wrong for men to want to see it? Is it wrong for a woman to dance suggestively, or even make some fairly suggestive moves or touches?
It all depends on the context. If the context is inline with the purpose of a woman’s sexuality, then it not only is not wrong, it is wonderful!
I can hear the shouts already, “Do not judge Miley!” This is the common cry of our age – the only thing wrong is to say something is wrong.
But do we really believe it? And is it really a principal that we can live by – this not judging idea?
In Part 1 of this series, we discovered from comments by her agent and a friend, plus a little discernment, that the real message of Miley twerking is about growing up – and using sexuality to get what you want. It is a form of prostitution – using your body sexually to achieve some level of success. Continue reading Miley Twerked – Do Not Judge Miley? Part 2→