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Should I See Shades of Grey?

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The book series 50 Shades of Grey was hugely successful – if you go by the number of books sold. But how do you measure success when it comes to the relational impact of the books? 

Do these stories of sado-masochistic extra-marital sex help those who read them in forming and sustaining healthy long-term relationships – or hurt them?

And now comes the movie version. Should you buy a ticket and fill your mind with the message of Grey? Continue reading Should I See Shades of Grey?

Drunken Date Rape – TMZ Thinks it’s Funny?

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It was an attention getting conversation for sure. The staff of TMZ (a profane television show) was discussing what kind of alcoholic drinks the ladies on the show ask for when out with a guy.

One of the ladies confided that she just tells her date to “surprise me,” a response that was met with some rather interesting raucous laughter and snide remarks.

The general consensus from the men on the show, and apparently from some of the women as well, was that she should expect to wake up somewhere with her date with no memory of what had happened  – but of course, a lot had happened. Continue reading Drunken Date Rape – TMZ Thinks it’s Funny?

Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2

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Chances are you know of someone who met a really unbelievable person while dating – and fell heads-over-heels in “love” very quickly. The relationship was red-hot from the get-go. But soon it turned alarmingly scary.

Chances are, the unbelievable special someone was a sociopath. 

What is a Sociopath?

In brief, a sociopath feels no true empathy – empathy being the capacity for caring for the feelings and well-being of others. They tend to be master manipulators to get what they want from those around them – because for the sociopath, life is about them only. Continue reading Avoid Dating Sociopaths – Deadly Dating Part 2

Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating

The book Jane Eyre has as a central theme a scary mystery. Once the leading character, Jane, meets a man (Rochester) who finally seems to truly care for her – she finds that there is some darkly mysterious and dreadful serious problem which he is hiding in his house. She perceives there is someone there besides her who is involved with this man. And this someone seems terrifying. Continue reading Too Physical Too Soon? The Dangers of Sex in Dating

Resolve to Get Lucky in Love

I know what a lot of people mean when they say “get lucky.” It can have a certain sexual connotation. But I wanted to get your attention before you made your New Years resolutions. Great relationships have nothing to do with luck. For that matter, having consistently great sex has nothing to do with this mystical force called luck either. So if you want a great relationship or great sex – don’t rely on luck. Resolve to live wisely – none of these good things happen by chance.

Obviously, forcing a relationship on someone isn’t good. I believe that is called kidnapping and is against the law!

But if you want to position yourself for a great relationship, it can be done by resolving to do a few things in particular. Continue reading Resolve to Get Lucky in Love

The Best Dating Advice – Great Dates

Do you want to avoid the pitfalls of dating? The key to great relationships is not a matter of luck. Do this course – by podcast or reading and learn:

  • What is the surprising meaning of love? And can you do love?

  • How do you know who the right person is?

  • What is the surprisingly simple way to safely use a condom?

  • Should you think twice before kissing your date? Much less going further?

  • What are the amazing benefits of sex in a relationship? But what precautions must you take before taking the plunge?

  • What is the key language you need to learn to effectively love someone? It may surprise you!

Get this and more – just click on the links below to learn how to get started on a lifelong relationship now…

 

  1. Setting Dating Goals
  2. What is Love?
  3. How to Love Someone
  4. What Happens During Sex
  5. Safe Sex
  6. Meet the Right Person (Pt. 1)
  7. Meet the Right Person (Pt. 2)
  8. The Guy’s Role in Dating
  9. The Girl’s Role in Dating
  10. How to Date Smartly 

 

My Boyfriend Sold Me…Deadly Dating Part I

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There is an old-fashioned way of avoiding abuse in dating relationships – ready to go “Old School?”

“…I met this guy who I thought was my boyfriend…I was convinced he was my boyfriend,” relates Chong Kim. “…We were living in Dallas, Texas, and he told me about after two or three weeks of us dating, and he said to me, ‘I want to take you out of state to go meet my parents.’ And my girlfriend said that if a guy says that to you that he likes you, so there was no ‘be careful’ – none of that. I was real excited.”

Chong’s story is the focus of the award winning movie Eden – and as you might suspect from the way she is telling the story, things are about to get ugly – real ugly. Continue reading My Boyfriend Sold Me…Deadly Dating Part I

Is He or She the One? Part 2

The one may be closer than you think.
The secret to finding the one can be learned from successful couples…

In Part 1 of this discussion we saw that the idea of finding the one certainly works well for Hollywood movies and romance novels – but it is based on a fantasy view of life. It also tends to be based on a selfish motive – obviously a poor way to get into a long-term love relationship. Couples who buy into this idea and get together based upon the emotions and strong feelings of the moment tend to end up disillusioned – those romantically glorious breathless moments are just that; moments. They will not last. Those indescribable internal stirrings are insufficient to sustain a long-term love relationship. Continue reading Is He or She the One? Part 2

Miley Twerked – Proper Sexuality, Pt 3

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Is it normal to show your body and express your sexuality in public? Or is there a higher purpose?

Is there something wrong with showing the magnificent female form? Is it wrong for men to want to see it? Is it wrong for a woman to dance suggestively, or even make some fairly suggestive moves or touches?

It all depends on the context. If the context is inline with the purpose of a woman’s sexuality, then it not only is not wrong, it is wonderful!

You Should Have Put a Ring On It?

Beyonce’s song about single ladies is only partly right – but the proper context for the display of the beautiful female form and the expression of all sexuality is after the ring is given, and the couple says “I do.”   Continue reading Miley Twerked – Proper Sexuality, Pt 3

Miley Twerked – Do Not Judge Miley? Part 2

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Do not judge Miley? “We Can’t Stop” seems to claims God’s authority for that – but does it?

I can hear the shouts already, “Do not judge Miley!” This is the common cry of our age – the only thing wrong is to say something is wrong.

But do we really believe it? And is it really a principal that we can live by – this not judging idea?

In Part 1 of this series, we discovered from comments by her agent and a friend, plus a little discernment, that the real message of Miley twerking is about growing up – and using sexuality to get what you want. It is a form of prostitution – using your body sexually  to achieve some level of success. Continue reading Miley Twerked – Do Not Judge Miley? Part 2